This was the original post I had scheduled in my mind to do yesterday, but somehow, I got completely sidetracked.
This picture was actually taken after the Wedding and on their way out to the Honeymoon. Which was spent at The Ritz Hotel in London. (I can’t help but think how Young they both looked, but both of those faces I remember from my “girlhood”.
The funny thing about yesterday, was that I went in and got Momma up, with Cam-Man running all over the place, shouting at the top of his lungs. Momma asked me “what’s today?”, and I replied with “Today is a Special day“.
A conversation with the Farmer led me to believe that maybe I had the dates wrong. I kinda down played the whole thing. Then I came home and figured it out, Yup, yesterday was their anniversary of 31 years. The formula for this calculated finding is this. 31 years ago on April 18th, I got married, The Farmer and Momma got married exactly one week after I did.
The difference being, I got divorced after 13 years, and they stayed married. (On a side note, I have since re-married AND found my soul-mate the past 17 years). But I digress.
Today when I went over to the Farmer’s and got Momma up, I asked her how she was doing, and I’m here to tell you, she was so bright eyed and bushy tailed, I asked to see her tail. The Farmer came in to help me with getting her up and he even remarked how bright eyed she was.
Momma was a trooper today, she did her therapy, walked like a champ, and then took a nap in her chair while I explained to the Farmer I was right about the Anniversary thing.
Apparently it didn’t matter, they had a remarkable evening last night. I won’t go into details, but apparently, the Farmer and Momma had a good night together.
When I see the love that they share, and the things the Farmer does to help make Momma comfortable, I can’t tell you what I feel. I have seen the Farmer go out of his way to make sure Momma is comfortable and taken care of.
I can remember walking into the Farmer’s room and just dropping a hint that maybe Momma needs “this or that”, and the next thing you know our favorite dude from UPS shows up at the door.
While Parkinson’s may be hard, the Farmer is trying his best to make it ok for Momma, and I’m with him in this.
Momma once asked me, “Why do you both take care of me so well?” I responded with this:
“Because Momma, you took such good care of the Farmer and I for a long time, you were my friend when I really needed one. You let me come live with you and took me as your own, that now, it’s time we took care of you and let you know, you ARE our own.”
Happy Anniversary to the Farmer and Momma (a day late, BUT, I was right…hehehe) I Love you both with all my heart.
Today dawned, nice and sunny, with barely any wind. I went and scooped up Cam-Man as usual, and I let him in on a Secret. Today was his Great Grandma’s Birthday. He seemed kinda excited, and as soon as we got to the Farmer’s house, he strutted in as normal, and peeked at his Great G’ma (Momma) who was still sleeping.
I went in and did the normal morning thing with Momma, and then let her sleep for another hour before getting her up. Cam-Man, had decided (while I was cleaning Momma up), to look through the pantry and find what HE wanted for breakfast. So, upon entering the kitchen to Cam-Man having just about everything pulled OUT of the pantry, and came up to me holding a pack of Instant Peaches and Cream Oatmeal. I made his Oatmeal, while he was putting things back INTO the pantry. While Cam-Man was eating, I made the Farmer a breakfast sammich of ham cheese and egg, grilled.
I got the sink ready to wash all the dishes and Cam decided he had to earn his breakfast so….I let him go…Hey, if the kid wants to play in the water and wash dishes, Who am I to stop him? I was right there with him, and he’s figured out how to climb on this chair by himself, and has also figured out how NOT to fall off. By the way just to let you know, my little ham was saying cheese when took the picture.
Anyway, I went in and got Momma up, and dressed her into her new clothes,when all of a sudden, Cam-Man and the Farmer came in and folks WE ALL did therapy together this morning. It was a sight to see. I think Momma got a kick out of it, because she was a little slow starting this morning.
We made it into the front room, and the Farmer left to run some errands, and I went and threw the laundry in the washer, when I came back upstairs this is what I walked into. Cam-Man had his seat for “Word World” and he was watching…
Momma well she was watching too. Momma made the comment today, that she enjoys going through kindergarten again with Cam-Man and it’s funny to me that both of them try to “outdo” each other by yelling out letters. Cam and Momma both sing the ABC song together and it makes my heart melt, because while Cam cannot say all of the letters, Momma helps him out.
This would be Momma, she was all dressed up for her Birthday… and saw me peeking around the corner. I guess she was helping Cam-Man with Word World, and I interrupted.
Today is Momma’s birthday, when the Farmer and I told her Happy Birthday, she was really pleased, and then she got a card from the Farmer and one from a relative. She was opening them when we asked how old she was. Her reply was “Uhm close to 70 right?” “Uhm,Momma you are 68, which I guess is close to 70”.
This is the Farmer and Momma on their wedding day, psst…the anniversary is coming up. They have been married for 31 years. When I look at this picture, I am filled with love for this woman, who married my Dad, and Me.
A lot of people ask me why I take care of her. You know why? Because this is my Momma, she has taken care of the Farmer for a bunch of years, and she’s taken care of me too. She has been a best friend, and a Momma too. Happy Birthday, Momma, it’s hard to do something special, because I can’t bake a cake for you, because you can’t eat it, I can’t have a drink with you because you can’t drink it, But I can do whatever I can to make you comfortable, and love you to pieces, and if kindergarten “Word World” makes you happy, then I’m happy too. P.s. YUP, this is the shirt I was talking about…”Half Irish ALL trouble”..It fits my Momma, in more ways than one.
This is the Farmer and Momma, it’s been a few years. They were aboard the QEII for a cruise. They actually cruised on the QEII twice. The first trip included Tenerife (Canary Islands) and Madeira, Portugal. The second trip was to Lisbon, Portugal and Vigo, Spain. They really enjoyed their trips, and Momma still hugs Mr. Bear, who was acquired on one of the trips.
They left England out of Southampton. That leads me into the Titanic, whose anniversary starts this evening at 10:45pm. The Unsinkable ship that sank. 1,514 people perished that evening. I have been fascinated with the history and such for a long time. Also to the youth of today, YES, it was a REAL LIFE event, and NOT just a movie.
Apparently by all I’ve read, there is to be an auction of some of the artifacts that have been recovered from the ship. I find this sad in a way, monetary gain over a tragedy To read about some of the survivor’s stories, this is something they lived with their whole life. To be a part of that type of tragedy must be at some level horrific.
Cruising on a ship today has improved so much from back then, Yes, when the Electrician and I went on our cruise, I had thoughts that something terrible would happen. But it didn’t.
This pic…uhm…circa 1996…the Electrician and I had our whole family -1 done at Olan Mills photography. I like this pic. Because, this is us. When we met both of our lives were dealing with divorce from our former spouses. But he saw something in me and I in him, that was just meant from the heavens above. This man takes care of me like no one else, this man KNOWS me like no one else. This man understands me like no one else. To quote my ex-husband (who is now deceased) Jo – you met and married you’re soul-mate. Well…duh….
We married 2 families that day, and altho some of the outcome was not what we expected…They have pretty much grown up and become their own people. There is one missing son in this picture, he was the rebellious one and that’s ok because he choose his own path as must we all.
I really did not think the electrician would do it…but ya know what he did…he married me AND all my baggage from 16 years ago. I love this man… you have no idea…….and here it is all these years later and despite all we have been through ..uhm… this man isLoves me, and I will take it, and carry it until God calls me home…. I only wish I would have found him earlier….but oh well…I’m on the path I’m on and well, I would not change anything….(well MAYBE somethings).
Happy Anniversary to the Electrician, thanks for the past years and here’s to the future one’s.