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Happy Birthday to the College Student

Today is the College Student‘s birthday.  This is a letter from me to her:

My darling daughter,

While you were only 4 when I met you, you were a force to be reckoned with.  You are a beautiful woman now.  But you were oh so cute when you were little too.    I didn’t know how to react to you at times, for you see, your Mother was in your life, and you did not like to share your Dad with me.

But somehow, through the years, we managed to find a bonding.  We have fought on occasions, and we have cried on occasions, but I have always loved you.  

Things may have seemed bleak lately, but they are not.  Nothing has changed, and you are still the “baby” of the family.   While today, you have reached your 22nd birthday.  I would just like to let you know, a couple of things.

1.  I Love you.

2.  Your Dad loves you, as well as your brother’s and sisters.

3.  I am so proud of the woman you are becoming, I could shout it from the rooftop.

4.  I may not be your Mother, but I am still your Mom, and friend for life.

5.  I am very proud to call you my daughter.  (Even if I’m the Step Mother, and the wicked one at that.)

6.  The world is your playground, and you embrace it and enjoy each and every day.

7.  While I giggle when you call and say “it sucks to be a grown up”, I’m proud of the way you are handling it.

8.  To have you come home, and then spend a couple of hours just laughing with your sister, and watching you with Cam-man, those hours are priceless to me.  

9.  We still have the note you wrote to your Dad and I on the fridge, the day you left for college.  And Boo-Bear, Your Welcome.

10.  I Love you and am oh so proud of you Girl!  

I could go on and tell some embarrassing stories “Octo-Mom” with one kid, but I think you know what I mean.

Thank you Boo for being in my life, for calling everyday, and just being you!  Happy Birthday little one, and I love you!!!


“The wicked Step-Mother”



Surprises, reflection and thought.



Today has been a good day.  Mom’s rails for her bed arrived and so did the new bed frame, so the Farmer & I will be putting that together tomorrow.  Boy is she in for a surprise, unfortunatly…she doesn’t take to surprises that well these days, but at least she will be safer during the night and that makes the Farmer & I happy.

Mom was having a good day today and we even washed and styled her hair, after we were done, she made the comment to me “You really do take good care of me, and I love you”.  I don’t know about you, but that just makes me go AWWWW, my heart was touched.

And that was just the FIRST half of my day.  I got to see Cam-the Man today too.  However, he was sleeping the whole time, amazing how a kid can sleep with his Granny staring at him just willing him to wake up so we could play.  But it was not meant to be today.  He slept the whole time I was there, and then had to leave when the Fisher-dude came home, I hung out with him for a bit and that was nice.

My day was filled with not just these things but also with a friend whom I’ve known some 30+ years, whom I don’t talk to everyday but who after years, or months I can talk to, just like no time has passed.  I don’t have a lot of these in my life and I’m really glad I have this one.  

So my thought is this one,  I am thankful for everything that I have.  Are their days when I just don’t feel like I can make it or do it another day?  That my heart is heavy with burdens, yea, I have them, but then I do something stupid or goofy and know….Tomorrow is another day and whammo, it’s gonna start all over again, and maybe, just maybe….I can get it right.

But if I don’t….I will have known…I’m just being me…:)  and doing it the only way I know how.  And that would be by the seat of pants and full blast.